“Our relationships are becoming so much more public than they used to be. With Instagram and other social media, your romantic gestures now live forever online, so you’d better make them grand!”

“I think the biggest telling sign is if your partner doesn’t challenge you,” Emily Holmes Hahn, matchmaker and Founder of LastFirst tells Bustle. “Intellectually, you need someone who mentally stimulates you and who you don’t get bored talking to. Physically too, you need to be challenged by a partner who you’re excited to be with intimately, and who you don’t just fall into a routine with.”