Female masturbation always ends up being either difficult or taboo.
For so many of us, figuring out how to touch yourself as a girl isn’t something we’re taught, it’s something we have to claim.
The taboo is so strong that masturbation has been associated with being wrong, embarassing and sinful.
The Jane the Virgin actress, Gina Rodriguez, said in an interview, “In all honesty, I used to feel guilty for masturbating. Oh my god, this extreme guilt! And that lasted way too long. Or maybe I masturbated too much!”
This is everything you need to know about how to touch yourself, and girl using only your fingers!
What is Fingering?
When talking about touching yourself as a girl, fingering is using your fingers to gently touch, stroke, or massage your genitals in a sexual or very intimate way.
It’s often about finding pleasure slowly, like finding softer spots, teasing, or learning what feels good for you.
You circle, stroke, slide, or press in ways that feel good. Some women like it slow and teasing, and others prefer it faster.
One or more fingers caress the outside of the vulva or slide into the vagina, sometimes focusing on the clitoris, which is super sensitive.
That being said, there are different ways you can masturbate, yes, it’s not just limited to your vagina. Did you know that some people also finger the anus for pleasure?
So, What are the Different Ways to Masturbate?
A female body is so strong, and the orgasms, if done right, are even stronger….
Can you imagine having an orgasm? There are multiple ways to touch yourself as a girl, and it’s not just penetration. You can satisfy yourself in various ways.
As Samantha said in Sex and the City, “Listen to me. The right guy is an illusion. Start living your lives.”
Because the only person who should know exactly what you want is YOU!
Go Faster…Clitoral Masturbation
Do you know the clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings, EIGHT THOUSAND!!
Use one or two fingers to gently rub in small circles around it, not necessarily right on it at first.
Direct stimulation can feel overwhelming, so easing in from the sides and slowly working closer tends to feel a lot better.
Most women find clitoral stimulation to be their go-to way to orgasm.
In-n-Out…Vaginal Masturbation
For some women, internal stimulation feels deeply satisfying in a way that clitoral touch doesn’t match.
It’s inserting one or two fingers into the vagina, and you can try curling your fingers slightly upward toward your belly button, and you’ll reach the G-spot.
It feels a little different from the surrounding tissue, with a slightly ridged, more textured appearance.
As arousal builds, you might feel a strong urge to pee just before orgasm. This is your pelvic muscles tightening, not your bladder, so it’s usually safe to keep going if it feels okay.
Anal Masturbation…the Backdoor Encore
Yes, and most women enjoy it without really admitting it. The anal area is also packed with nerve endings, and when stimulated, it can feel surprisingly pleasurable.
Right before you orgasm this way, you may feel an intense urge to pee, don’t panic, that’s just the contractions happening around your anal sphincter.
Always go slow, and please use plenty of lubrication. The muscles here don’t self-lubricate the way the vagina does.
Combos and Erogenous Zones
Combining clitoral and vaginal stimulation, or even anal play, tends to feel more intense, and gets a lot of women to orgasm faster than any other method.
Use one hand on the clitoris while using a finger from the other hand internally.
Erogenous Zones, such as your inner thighs, lower stomach, neck, nipples, and lower back, are more connected to your pleasure.
Try running your fingers lightly across them, applying gentle pressure, or just feeling yourself, literally.
Lock the Door, Get Some Lube…and Get Started
Your brain is your biggest erogenous zone, and that’s a fact. What you’re thinking directly affects how you feel.
The right music, the right vibe, and the right mood mean you’re already halfway to an intense ORGASM. Because who wants to get interrupted just when your eyes are rolling and you’re feeling IT.
Some things deserve to be sacred, and MASTURBATION should be one of them.
- Choose your time: Lock the door, turn off notifications, and get into “me‑only” mode.
- Adjust the lighting: Soft lamps, candles, or even a blanket can feel more intimate.
- Play a playlist that turns you on: Music, ASMR, or a favorite sexy time playlist can pull your mind into arousal.
- Use scent on purpose: A nice perfume, body oil, or scented candle can make it feel more sensual.
- Get comfy: Get under the covers or on a couch with loose clothes, clean sheets, and maybe a towel.
- Add lube: To avoid any uneasy moments and dry spells.
- Watching movies: Play visuals you enjoy to build arousal.
Positions for Getting the Big O
Do you think positions matter when masturbating? Yes, a big, big yes.
Where and how you place your body make a big difference, and it can turn your “uhhhh” into a relaxing “ahhhhh,” when your body feels relaxed, supported, and tension‑free.
On your back
Lying on your back allows you to spread your legs more comfortably and focus fully on your clitoris or fingers without balancing.
You can use a pillow under your hips, making clitoral or vaginal touch feel more intense.
Face down
Lying on your stomach lets you rub your clitoris against a pillow or blankets in a grinding motion.
This position can feel very grounding and intense, especially if you enjoy firm, rhythmic pressure instead of light, teasing touches.
On all fours
This changes the angle of the vaginal canal entirely, which means internal stimulation feels completely different compared to lying down.
Reaching one hand underneath while on all fours gives a different kind of access and pressure.
Seated or reclined
Sitting on the edge of the bed, a chair, or leaning back against the headboard lets you use gravity and your body weight to increase pressure.
You can rock your hips, press your hand harder, and even combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation more easily.
Changing your position, shift pressure, angle, and blood flow.
Did You Know Orgasms Change with Age?
How you orgasm changes with your age.
Your body at 20 is not your body at 35, and your body at 35 is definitely not your body at 50. So, how to touch yourself at different ages?
In Your 20s
Most women start figuring out their bodies at this age.
Your body is responsive, arousal comes quickly, and everything feels fresh. The 20s are less about technique and more about getting comfortable in your own skin.
In Your 30s
By your 30s, you know your body better and care far less about outside opinions.
Arousal may take slightly longer, but the experience is more satisfying.
At this point, most women have figured out what works for them in the pressure, pace, and conditions. And it’s okay if you haven’t. Take your time.
In Your 40s
Hormonal changes become more noticeable. Sensitivity can shift, and what worked before might need adjusting.
This doesn’t mean pleasure decreases.
It just means you’re taking longer to warm up and being more intentional about relaxation.
In Your 50s
Many women feel more comfortable and confident in their bodies, but their sensitivity continues to shift, and focusing more on external stimulation.
The pace slows, but the connection to your own body improves.
Does Masturbating on Your Period Feel Different?
Masturbating on your period feels so much better…
Blood flow and hormonal shifts can make your genitals more sensitive, so clitoral or vaginal touch may feel more intense or even easier to orgasm from.
There is a health benefit, like cramps can ease when you climax, since orgasms release endorphins and relax the uterine muscles.
Using a towel, lying on your side, or going slow with lube can make it comfy, messy, and completely out of this world.
Masturbation Isn’t a Secret…
And just like this, you get to decide what feels good, what’s weird, what’s “mehh,” and what’s “holy wow do that again.”
Hopefully, you’re a little more informed, a little less awkward, and maybe even a little excited to do some personal research on how to touch yourself as a girl.
Look, your body is one of the most interesting places you’ll ever rub into.
Every woman’s experience is different. Everybody has their own preferences.
You do you, pretty please.
Frequently Asked Queries (FAQs)
1. Is It Okay to Touch Yourself at 13?
Yes, it is completely normal. Curiosity about your body during puberty is a natural part of growing up. It is harmless.
2. What Happens When You Stop Masturbating Females?
Nothing harmful happens. Your body simply adjusts. Some women notice no difference at all, while others feel slight changes in mood or stress levels.
3. Is It Good for a Woman to Release Every Day?
For most women, it is perfectly fine and even beneficial for mood and stress relief.
